I have a hard time finding bras , I normally think of them as torture devices made by men to make me miserable. I have purchased roughly 50 bras in the last 1-2 years to find one that is comfortable and I don’t have to do a bathroom run so I can adjust everything upstairs a few times a day. I quit getting hopeful. A few years ago I found the IT bra but of course, they quit making that style. The only place to purchase it was on QVC and with 3000+ reviews begging them to bring it back, nope.I thought, hell I’ll try it, can’t be any worse than what I have already bought.I received them (always buy two in case it’s “THE ONE”) (I guess I still hold out hope,lol)I try it on and after adjusting the straps and the closure in the back, it’s “ok”. Then I noticed they send a bra extender, (GAME CHANGER) I didn’t think much of it at first but I wasn’t quite comfortable so I wasn’t impressed. I felt like it would come off my shoulders, remember torture device, stuffed sausage, just not comfy. Then I noticed I could cross the straps, (I have horrible back and neck problems, tension, aching, headaches from working at a desk all day) so I let the straps way out and grabbed that handy dandy bra extender and started working the straps and back where I would get comfy.First day was …ok. I was not comfy by any means. But I Never had to adjust it. But the criss cross was too high and made my neck uncomfortable.Second day, I played with the criss cross across my upper back, and really pulled down on the extender, which pulled down on the cross cross on my upper back(where I have pain) EUREKA!The criss cross was pushing on my upper back( not neck) and I used that extender to its full potential! The bra has a 2 inch long place to clasp the bra closed in the back, 4 brackets tall. ( do not know the technical terms for this, bare with me lol)The extender is another 2 1/2 inches long with 4 brackets to clasp it together.I pulled down on the back until I found “THE SPOT” for that criss cross on my upper back and snapped that baby closed. OH MY MY MY GOD!!!! ( I apologize, but the Lord likes when your happy)I went from 5 Am to 3 Pm at work, I wasn’t adjusting straps, I wasn’t tugging down on the back cause it rode up, I did not have to go for a bathroom trip to pull them back up because the bra was sliding up in the front. It has actual cup covers so modesty is A-OK, it stayed in place all day, and the boobs did too!!!My neck did Not hurt because the pressure from that criss cross pushed right on my upper back that I stood up straight without pain. No pulling on my shoulders making me hunch over after hours of sitting.I’m not saying this damn thing is a miracle but for us ladies who are older, and we have more aches, cracks and pops than the cereal, it’s AMAZING!I would be happier if the sides were an inch taller but considering it pushed the boobs up and together and made my back and neck NOT hurt, I’m sold!For the young ladies with none of these problems, I’m sure it’s good for you too lol. ?